Over the past month I’ve received several offers of dates and relationships from various men who read this blog. I’m not looking for a new boyfriend right now but it seems I should clarify what it is I look for in a man when I am, which will hopefully stem the flow of offers from guys who really don’t have it.
I am a very high-quality woman. I know that sounds arrogant, but let’s consider the facts:
- I’m slim (whereas 62% of American women age 20 to 74 are overweight). Although when I am pms'ing I tend to eat chocolate all day and feel gross. And bloated. And gassy.
- I’m attractive (my new picture has been rated more attractive than 86% of the women on Hot or Not -- and the women who upload their pictures are a self-selected sample that is probably already biased towards being more attractive than the general female population). In fact, most chicks want to get on me as well. I can pretty much go in either direction.
- I’m relatively young (whereas 82% of American adult women are over 30 years old). I am also younger than 100% of women over 32.
- I’m intelligent (IQ tested at 145 when I was a child, which is 3 standard deviations above the mean -- higher than 99.85% of the population. Even though I haven't seen the score, I'm sure my parents wouldn't have lied to me about that. So, I'm totally more smarter than pretty much everyone I meet. And I went to an Ivy League school, did I mention that?
- I’m educated (whereas 77% of American women do not have bachelor’s degrees) This does not include the surfing school I attended in Costa Rica, so that just adds to my genius.
- I have a strong libido and love having sex with men who are smart, athletic (not too big though, I prefer lean muscle), into the outdoors, yet live near Brooklyn, very romantic, but not girly, and only have shampoo and shaving cream in their bathrooms. Maybe deodorant.
- Most of my interests tend to be more popular with men than women: surfing, capoeira(formerly), cycling, crying at work, drinking scotch.
Given that self-improvement is an ongoing project of mine this list will continue to grow (I’m currently working on adding surfing neighbors Internet connection, somewhat physically fit, medium well-traveled, slightly higher income, and talking men into cooking for me to the list). So even when “relatively young” (an important criteria for most men) drops off that list, I should have added enough other things that my overall dating market value should remain the same or even improve.
The above list explains why I typically receive 50-100 (sometimes more) responses whenever I post personal ads. This is in addition to getting hit on almost every time I go out alone by Puerto Rican guys standing on the corner. (and all that those men know about me is that they like the way I look, they don’t even know about all the other qualities I have that make me more appealing than most other women).
So, I have a *lot* of choices of men who want to date me. Given that, of course I choose to date only the highest quality men -- men who are also lean and muscular, goofy-cute, sarcastic, finished high school, employed, etc. I’m attracted to men from any race and a wide age range (21 to 50 or so) so the pool of men who meet those requirements is quite large, which allows me to add all sorts of additional restrictions if I want.
I realize that some of you will find this post depressing because you’ll realize that you don’t qualify as a high quality man and thus won’t be able to get a high quality woman. You have a few options:
- Lower your standards and stop pursuing women who are out of your league. There are lots of fat single mothers out there who can’t find dates either.
- Look in the developing world. If you’re literate with a home computer and an internet connection you are very wealthy compared to the rest of the world. Citizenship or legal permanent residency in a rich country makes you more attractive to women in poorer countries. Your value on the dating market is thus much higher there.
- Self-improvement! I used to be a fat unattractive college dropout who couldn’t get her life together. Now I’m thin, attractive, and successfully self-employed after graduating. You can make yourself over into a higher-quality man capable of winning a higher-quality woman too.
